You are considering entering into a life changing event called therapy. As with most things, the more you invest in it the more you will get out of it. I encourage you to be curious about the process and ask many questions. Below are frequently asked questions about therapy that may help you in deciding whether therapy is right for you at this time in your life.
Psychotherapy is the practical application of the principals developed in the science of Psychology. Psychology, as a science, applies the scientific method to the exploration of human behavior using specific steps. Basically this method involves observation, theorizing or explaining, experimentatin and changing, and then observing the results of the intervention.
In psychotherapy, the client observes themselves, assisted by the therapist’s objectivity. Compassion toward the self is recommended in this process, as a way to see clearly without the distortion of judgment. Through this observation, theories develop as to how the client might have arrived at their current state and, most importantly, how things could be adjusted to enhance life and make it more satisfying. The therapist provides structure and support for both observation and experimentation. After strategies are developed and undertaken, the client and the therapist observe, review, and evaluate the changes and resulting effects.
Therapy works by providing a client with an nonjudgmental place to observe their life, conflicts and concerns. Through observation, consciousness is raised and, with consciousness comes the ability to steer and direct changes. Without consciousness it is very difficult to change anything. With awareness the client and therapist work together to develop effective strategies for getting life’s needs met. Therapists essentially sell tools and sharpen skills for effective life management.
Therapy work best if you trust the therapist that you choose. This may take a little time to assess, as trust is built by opening up and seeing if you feel safe. It is not wise to open up in situations where you think you might be injured, betrayed, or unheard. If you want you can ask to talk with a potential therapist by phone before making an appointment. Listen to your own heart to see whether you feel you could establish a trusting relationship with that therapist.
Not all therapies are the same. There are specific therapy modalities that have been proven to be effective in treating specific psychological disorders. Ask your therapist about the tools and strategies that they intend to use. Feel free to ask about the research behind their techniques and the known effectiveness of these strategies.
The choices we make in life have a great deal to do with our values. What we value influences what we choose. If our values are unexplored we may lack awareness as to why we are making certain decisions. In therapy values can be examined and clarified. It may also help to know the values of your therapist because these values will directly or indirectly effect your therapy. Feel free to ask about values in therapy.
Your therapist can help you evaluate whether or not medication might be helpful in your particular situation. Only medical doctors and psychiatric nurse practitioners can prescribe psychotropic medication in Oregon.
Medication can be a helpful augmentation to therapy; and in many situations this combination is the treatment of choice. Your therapist will discuss the pros and cons of medication as well as lead you to resources that may help you consider your options. Ultimately, this decision is up to each individual.
You may be looking into therapy because one or both of your parents are encouraging or insisting that you go. Therapy won't be very helpful if you don't want to come. If you are coming under the pressure of your parents, it might help to give therapy a three session chance to see if you can find anything beneficial in it for you. If, after three sessions, you don't see how it will be helpful to you then it is probably best that you not continue and maybe try again later. Dr. Martindale will work with you to tell your parents that this is not the best time for you to be in therapy.